The wise woman builds her house,
But the foolish tears it down with her own hands.
Proverbs 14:1 NASB
Making a House a Home
An Essential Key: Love is in the Details:
The most beautiful things in life consist of tiny, often intricate details. All of God’s nature is a display of this truth about beauty. The beautiful, white snowdrift is made up of tiny snowflakes. A towering tree is composed of many branches covered with single leaves. The loveliness of a rose is found in the velvety petals. God created beauty out of infinite details, set in an orderly fashion and following the rules of His creation. Certainly, as women, we should strive to follow the pattern set by our Creator.
A woman’s life is composed of details. From her appearance to her home, there are hundreds of details combining to make a picture of orderly beauty, of hundreds of details combing into make a picture of a mess. Details must always be carefully thought out and completed.
When we do a task, such as setting a dinner table, we should set a nice table, perhaps even with a small vase of flowers or a candle for a centerpiece.
(unscented candles are better with food). It need not be elaborate or expensive, just a thoughtful touch. Step back and think “Is anything missing?” (salt and pepper, for example).
Doing dishes and cleanup requires attention to detail. Dishes and silverware need to be clean. Sticky counter tops need a thorough wiping.
Proper personal appearance is dependent on the details: body cleanliness, trimmed fingernails, clean hair, well pressed clothes, polished shoes, etc. Details comprise the whole.
Details in the daily schedule are important as well. Being able to calmly handle all the occurrences in a day is often just a matter of prioritizing and scheduling all those details!
Details in decorating, sewing and crafts are mandatory to an item being made well. Do we not admire a handmade quilt with beautiful even stitches? That is not talent. It is patient attention to detail.
Details in relationships are the most important of all details. If we care for the details of our family members, especially our husbands, it is possible to have a harmonious relationship. Caring for details takes thoughtfulness on our part. It means thinking about what the other person needs and trying to provide those needs. It can be something as simple as having the house straightened and peaceful when a husband or roommates walk through the door. The secret of life of beauty if found in the details of that life. Everywhere you go, and in everything you see, notice the details. Your example will teach others to notice the details as well.
Adapted from an article by
Keepers of the Faith
(Note: There is a balance. You can get too caught up in the details and miss the big picture, as the Pharisees who focused on the externals and missed God’s heart)
Detail to consider: Is your calendar of birthdays and anniversaries up to date? Mine's not. I'm going to take advantage of being around families during the holidays to update my card list. I have a "Special Occasions" Notebook made especially for sending cards. It has a pocket for each month of the year, where you can store cards for occasions, and a place on the pocket where you can write a birthday or some other occasion that occurs annually during that month. Whatever system you use, remember that keeping track of our loved ones special days makes them feel cared for.
Check out this list of free holiday crafts.
Here are some ideas for gifts that might encourage an interest in the home arts. Of course, these gifts will go over better if a girl has shown some interest in learning the home arts and crafts. However, you never know what lifelong pleasure you may give to a young person if you intrigue their interest in domestic arts at a young age.
Here are some ideas to spur your thinking:
Girls ages 3-6: A doll; a pretty doll dress; offer to make a dress for a girl's doll and let her help you pick out material and trim; storybooks about happy families; cooking and/or cleaning toys; doll furniture; a plastic tea set; a real tea cup and saucer that mother keeps in a safe place and brings out for special occasions (could be a flea market find so that if it does get broken, it's no loss); children's apron
Girls ages 6-9: Craft store certificate; cross-stitch kit based on girl's skill and interest level; craft store apron, tote, or T-shirt and trim and fabric paints to use to decorate it; offer to teach her how to make doll dress and let her help you pick out the materials; children's cookbook, children's sewing book; kit for growing flowers or herbs in pots; if you know the family has a garden -- her own pretty little gardening gloves and a pastel handled trowel; kit to make garden stepping stone and offer to supervise. Flea store find tea cup and saucer
Girls ages 9-12: craft store certificates; sewing basket filled with things needed for hand stitching; Knifty Knitter and supplies; children's cookbook; children's sewing book; jewelry making supplies; candle making supplies; craft kits appropriate to girl's interest and skill level. T-shirt, tote, or craft store apron with items to decorate it. (With some items, ask mom first as many will require some level of supervision). Tea cup and saucer
Girls 12-18: craft or sewing store certificates; T-shirt or tote; art books, sewing books, cooking books, or craft books, especially ones geared to that age; take a cake making or sewing class with your daughter (this can be expensive, so count the cost first); jewelry making supplies; Kniftty Knitter and supplies or knitting needles, yarn, and a simple pattern; keeper vase with fresh flowers in it; scrapbook supplies; beginner's quilting kit
Young ladies 18-25: craft or sewing store certificates, cookbooks, sewing books, books on household management; scrapbook supplies; a homemade notebook with family recipes, home keeping tips that you collect from friends and families and pretty pictures;