Making a House a Home
Have you asked your family members what makes a house feel like home to them? I asked my hubby, and the first things he mentioned were neat and orderly, being able to find things when he needs them, having laundry done on time, and the like. I tend to think first of decor. My guy is definitely a function over form engineer, while I'm a form over function artsy type. :) So, it's good for me to keep his needs in mind. I think most men enjoy a home that functions well. My father and son are much the same way.
Dh doesn't naturally think about how the home is furnished, but when asked, he does come up with some preferences in that area as well. He is not comfortable in rooms that are overly formal or overly floral, though he does like real flowers. He enjoys comfortable seating and good lighting for reading or working.
When dh comes home, he is often carrying burdens from work or from his role in church, so he likes a few minutes to relax and collect his thoughts when he comes in.
What do your family members think is homey? I'd love to hear what you found out.
Extra credit: Read David Copperfield or watch one of the many movies made from the book. Compare Dora to Agnes. What good traits did each woman have? What weaknesses did each woman have? In what ways was Agnes more mature and more prepared for real life than Dora? How did she make things homey? What motivated David to marry Dora? Was his choice wise and based on real love, or was it based solely on infatuation? What motivated David to marry Agnes? Was this a more mature love?
For your homemaking notebook: Take a tour of the inside of your house. Notice things that please you. Also jot down things that need to be done. Remember, we're making a master list of things to do in the next several months. Don't try to tackle everything on your list at once.
For your Book of Days: Use some of these questions to help you think of things to journal about: What does it look, feel, smell, and sound like outside today? Has my pet or farm animal done something cute today? What are my children learning today? What am I cooking today? What textures, smells, and colors are involved in today's cooking? Have my husband and I had a few moments of laughter or joy together in the past twenty-four hours?