Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Caring for the People in Our Home

I thought I'd repeat this, since it was at the end of a rather long post. It's something we can all think about during the holidays. We can personalize it by thinking about our own goals and statements for the new year. In any endeavor in life, it helps to have a clear idea of what you are trying to accomplish:

The Betty Crocker Homemaking Statement

I believe homemaking is a noble and challenging career.

I believe homemaking is an art requiring many different skills.

I believe homemaking requires the best of my efforts, my abilities and my thinking.

I believe home reflects the spirit of the homemaker.

I believe home should be a place of peace, joy and contentment.

I believe no task is too humble that contributes to the cleanliness, the order, the health, the well being of the household.

I believe a homemaker must be true to the highest ideals of love, loyalty, service and religion.

I believe home must be an influence for good in the neighborhood, the community, the country.

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Stretch those food dollars!

Some ways to support our husband's work. I learned some of these by watching a wonderful and supportive wife in action:

1) Learn the names of all the people your husband works for and with and of those who might work for him. Pray for them. Take an interest in the events of their lives: engagements, marriages, births, graduations, etc. Send a card if appropriate.

2) Bring a basket of goodies or a pretty plant to his work place once in a while.

3) Be willing to have people from his work over to your home when it's appropriate.

4) Speak respectfully of your husband's work -- especially in front of your children. Perhaps, you feel that your husband is traveling too much or that his work asks too much of him. Maybe, you think he is underpaid or that his boss is Scrooge personified. These can be valid concerns, and you may want to address them with your husband. However, there's always a way to be honest about what you are feeling with respect and without complaining, nagging, belittling, or being sarcastic. Especially in the presence of your children, do not make bitter comments about your husband's job. Lift him up for working hard. Your children will likely take their cues from you. If you see the positive in what your husband does for a living, they likely will too.

5) Do not compare his work to what other men do or accomplish. Do not push him to be something he does not want to be. On the other hand, if he himself aspires to a more fulfilling job or to complete his education -- yet he lacks confidence -- be his greatest cheerleader.

It may sound old-fashioned to be so supportive of a husband's career today when so many women have jobs of their own. Yet, we are specifically called upon to be our husband's helpers. Though we cannot demand this, if we are vitally interested in our husband's work, he will likely be supportive of our interests, as well.

Interesting thought: I read about a woman who wanted to marry a preacher of God's word. Yet, she had a horror of visiting hospitals, and she knew that a preacher's wife would be called upon to minister to the sick. So, she determined to visit the sick in her local hospital at least once a week. She kept going until she got over her phobia. She did marry a preacher.

What was Jesus' source for being able to serve the disciples to the point of washing their feet? John 13:3 Jesus, knowing that the Father had given all things into His hands, and that He had come forth from God and was going back to God, got up from supper, and laid aside His garments; and taking a towel, He girded Himself.

Jesus knew who He was. He knew what His purpose was. He was confident that He had come from God and was going back to God. He was secure of this, and, therefore, He did not have to prove anything. He was able to humbly wash his disciples feet, even though He was their Lord, Savior, and Master.

Likewise, we are enabled to serve when we are confident of God's love for us and that He has a purpose for our lives. During the holiday season, it's a good thing to meditate about God's wonderful holiness and His unmeasurable love. You just can't spend too much time thinking about those two qualities of the Lord.

Merry Christmas!!


Blessed With 4 said...

Thank you for this course.
Merry Christmas to you and yours.

The Southern Housewife said...

Just LOVE that Betty Crocker statement! I read it nodding my head the entire time! ;)

Is it too late to join this course? I just happened to stumble upon your blog.

Elizabeth said...

Hi Blessed with 4,

Hope you had a Merry Christmas and that you will have a great new year.

Hi Southern Housewife, not too late at all. Would you like your site link to be included in the sidebar?