- of good constitution or nature
- useful, salutary
- good, pleasant, agreeable, joyful, happy
- excellent, distinguished
- upright, honourable
In loving our families and others, kindness and thoughtfulness are keys to understanding and meeting their needs.
To whom do we need to display kindness and goodness?
1) our husbands 2) our children 3) members of our extended family, especially the elderly who might be staying in our home 4) everyone -- beginning first of all with the church. "Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers." Galatians 6:10
Remember: We are working at our own pace. God uses our experiences as a wife and mother to mold our characters. If we attempt to grow in our keeping of a home for our own glory and by our own power, we will likely find ourselves feeling burdened and discouraged by our lack of progress. If we set out on this endeavor in order to please Christ, with a whole-hearted devotion, and by depending on his grace in everything, we will find satisfaction and peace.
GOD made a wonderful mother,
A mother who never grows old;
He made her smile of the sunshine,
And He molded her heart of pure gold; In her eyes He placed bright shining stars,
In her cheeks, fair roses you see;
God made a wonderful mother,
And He gave that dear mother to me.~Pat O'Reilly~
The Right Foundation
The only way to develop a solid confidence in children is to train them to be properly related to God. If they look to God and His unconditional love, there will be developed a confidence that does not turn into conceit and a humility that does not degenerate into self-rejection. “And so we know and rely on the love God has for us…Love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment…there is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear…I John 4:16-18
Mistakes Parents Make
1. Being basically critical of children
2. Insensitivity (discussing their faults in front of others)
3. Giving love only; failing to express esteem and admiration
4. Little or not time to be with a child exclusively. (Children will form their self-esteem based upon the kind and amount of time we give them.)
5. Failure to understand the unique needs of each of our children. People are motivated or discouraged in different ways.
7. Pushing too hard, too soon! Understand your child’s individual stage of development, his capabilities, etc. Children grow up too fast as it is in our society
8. parental self-depreciation. If children hear us run ourselves continually down, they learn to think little of themselves
9. Living our lives again through our children. Driving them to achieve what we never did. Getting our self-worth from how well they do or what people think of them.
1. Stress Relationship to God. Teach them that they are special in God’s sight and that their atlantes and abilities are gifts from Him
2. Stress character above looks, talent, intelligence, grades, and possessions
3. Applaud effort more than ability
4. Encourage children to talk about insecurities, fears, and failures. Share your moments of failure and how you overcame them.
5. Encourage achievement and improvement in their areas of natural strength.
6. Help them form upbuilding peer relationships
7. Teach them to appreciate and applaud the efforts and achievements of others.
8. Let your basic posture with your child be that of encouragement and training.